もうひとりの自分

■もうひとりの自分

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こんな風に思ったことはありませんか?

「どうせやっても無駄かもしれない。」
「こんなことをするとあとあと大変だ。」
「忙しいから時間が出来てからやろう。」

やったほうがいいのはわかっているのに
心のどこかにいるもうひとりの自分が
無意識でブレーキをかけます。

そして、もう一人の自分が勝利して
行動できなくなってしまうというわけです。

こうなってしまう原因の1つに
人間誰しもが持っているコンフォート・ゾーン
という考え方があります。

■コンフォート・ゾーン

コンフォート・ゾーンとは
自分にとって居心地のよい領域のことです。

普段、人間は何かの行動をするときに
無意識のうちにコンフォート・ゾーンの中で
出来る行動をとります。

そのほうが楽だからです。

例えば、英語がチンプンカンプンな人にとって
外国人に話しかけられることは
とてもストレスになります。

だから、典型的な日本人は外国人を前にすると
ノーノーと言って逃げてしまいます。

これは英語を話すということがその人の
コンフォートゾーンの外側にあるからです。

しかし、当たり前の話ですが
どんなにその人が英語の必要性を理解していても
こういう行動をとっていると
いつまで経っても英語を話せるようになりません。

ところが、英語を話すということが
コンフォート・ゾーンの内側にある人は
無理なく外国人に応対することができます。

そもそも英語を話すことにストレスがないので
居心地良く行動できてしまうわけです。

■ゾーンを広げる

このことからもう一人の
悪魔の囁きの影響を減らして
行動の幅を広げるには

コンフォートゾーンを広げる必要がある

ということが分かります。

ジェームス・スキナーも

「もしあなたの目標や行動が
安心領域の中でできるものなら
その目標や行動は役に立たないだろう。」

と言っているように
自分のコンフォート・ゾーンに留まっていると
成長することはできないとも言えます。

成功者が行動できる理由は普通の人よりも
はるかにコンフォート・ゾーンが広いからです。

だから、自分がコンフォート・ゾーンにいるな
と感じたら思い切って自分が考えることと
逆の行動をとってみるのも重要です。

少しずつ自分にとってのコンフォート・ゾーンを
広げることで行動の幅は広がって
やがては成功者の行動力を身に付けることができるでしょう。

もし次に何か難しい選択を迫られたとき、
コンフォート・ゾーンに留まって
無難にやり過ごすこともできます。

その一方、コンフォート・ゾーンを
ほんのちょっと出た行動をとれば
自分を成長させることもできます。

あなたならどちらを選択しますか?

ー森兼

PS.
成功研究会を聞いて
コンフォート・ゾーンを広げましょう。
http://www.jamesskinner.jp/JMS.php

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17 thoughts on “もうひとりの自分

  1. その通りですね
    人生、思い切りが肝心とはよくいいますが、まさにそれが云えますね

  2. いつまでもぬるま湯に浸かっていると、お湯の中は心地よくて、お湯から上がると寒いので、いつまでもお湯の中にいたいと思ってしまいます。
    次の行動に移すためには思い切ってお湯から上がらなければなりません。
    次の行動の目標・計画がしっかりしていれば、早くお湯から上がろうとするし、
    目標や計画が不明確だと心地よい現状に留まってしまい進歩しないですね。
    成長のためには思い切った行動が重要と思います。

  3. これまでの自分の経験の中でしか
    人生の糧になるものがないとしたら、
    コンフォートゾーンにいる限り、
    今以上の良い人生を送ることはできないですよね。

    人生をより良くする糧を欲しいなら、
    今までとは違う経験をしなければならない。

    そのためには、コンフォートゾーンから
    抜け出す勇気を持たなくてはならない。

    「すべての経験にマイナスはない。
    すべての経験から学べることができるならば、
    それはすべてプラスでしかない。」

    そう思えれば、行動する勇気も湧いてきます。

  4. 我々が置かれている環境において、
    もし、ストレスや不満はあってもそれなりに
    楽しみが見出せます。

    なので、ストレス解消と称した逃げ道があれば、
    それはそれで妥協してしまうのでしょうね。

    例えば、満員の通勤電車が嫌でも、
    残業ばかりで家族との時間が取れなくても、
    結局生きてはいけます。

    普通に食事をして、休みの日はゴロゴロして
    たまに趣味のゴルフをして・・・みたいな感じです。

    普通の人生さえ歩めないケースも世の中には
    ありますので、その“普通”は素晴らしいことなのですが、
    ただ人生の最期に『人生やるだけやったな!』と
    言えるようにする為には、コンフォートゾーンを
    抜け出すもしくはコンフォートゾーンそのものを
    撤廃しなければならないのでしょうね。

  5. 私は「器」という言葉をよく使います。
    今気づいたのですが、器=コンフォートゾーンかな?コンフォートゾーンを広げることは、今では趣味になってしまいました(笑)

  6. 私も基本はコンフォートゾーンに
    いたいです

    しかし、やっぱりコンフォートゾーンの
    中にいる自分の姿を考えると
    ダサいような人生もったいないよな
    気になってしまいます

    だから、結果がどうなろうと
    常になにかしら行動を起こすことを
    心がけています

    ありがとうございます

  7. 臨界点を突破しようともがいているところです。
    タイムリーな記事をありがとうございます。

    しかも森兼さんの記事!

    (その節はどうもありがとうございました!)

    今日まで「オールインワンウェブコピー」の教材で身につけた
    コピーライティング・スキルを駆使して、アウトプットし続けています。

    臨界点なんて大げさなものじゃないことも
    分かっているのですが。

    コンフォートゾーンに身を置いていることに
    今まで気付かなかったです。

    やればできることをやってないのは
    やっぱりものぐさな心が出てしまっているのか・・・

    とりあえず今から1記事、
    ブログにアップしてみようと思います。

    いつもありがとうございます!
    それではまたです。

  8. よく営業の仕事でも小さくまとまってルーティングワークになって日頃のきまり切った枠内でしか思考の範囲が固まって広がらない人が多いと感じます。「新たに挑戦するだけしてみるの
    はただなんだからとりあえずやってみればいいのに!」とよく思います。マラソンの時にはレベルの問題もあるし健康目的であればあまり飛ばさない方がいいのだろうけど初めから遅い人はコンフォートゾーンが狭いし、自分も途中からトップグループからは離されて9から19
    %位の範囲に収まり前半で「もう限界!」とあきらめるのがコンフォートゾーンだと痛感して
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